You are so young, so full of wonderment and innocence. Life is truly just beginning for you. There is so much joy ahead for you both, so much to learn and embrace. Happiness is what I hope your lives are full of. I want so much to believe there will be no hardships, no sadness, no let downs in your life. Nothing that breaks you so bad you’re not sure if you can put yourselves back together. I can only protect you so much but, I can also hold your hand and teach you, guide you and always love you.
You both have already had your share of heartbreak. I’m sorry. The resilience you both have at such a young age is something I hope you keep forever. Resilience teaches us to face a challenge and move forward. You are tough, you are brave, and you are better than your worst day. When you look at me, see that I have tried my best to be everything you needed in a role model for a woman. See that I too wanted to live past the hardships and move towards better days, for you, for me, and for us.
“As for my girls, I will raise them to think they breathe fire.” – Jessica Kirkland
People will judge you on anything and everything. That doesn’t mean those things are true, and it certainly is not an open door for you to “sink to their level.” You walk with an open mind, and heart. You are here to live your own lives, and you can’t make everyone happy. Start with the most important person, yourself. There may be things I don’t agree with that you do, (please hold off on any tattoos till you’re 21) don’t worry about pleasing me. I am more proud of a woman I raised who is confident, than one who is constantly worried about others opinions of her.
There will be times you are underestimated. Other times you will be overlooked. As scary as the next sentence is to say, there may even be times you are mistreated. Being a girl who grows into a woman is a tough thing. I pray that my generation and the others who have come before and those after mine will change this. You have every right that anyone else has to succeed, to be heard, to be celebrated. If someone ignores you, speak up. When you need to tell someone, “NO,” you make sure you are heard the first time. Your voice matters, you are smart, and be fearless in those things. If anyone ever chooses to not let this be the case, you fight. You fight with grace, dignity, and courage.
“You are magic. Don’t ever apologize for the fire in you.”- Unknown
Beauty is more than your outside image. As your mom, I look at you both and see these amazing, gorgeous humans. I see perfection. While I hope you always love what you see when you look in a mirror, I want you to love the person staring back. She has so much to offer the world and others who surround her. I didn’t always do that for myself and promise to guide you to do so. Know your worth and don’t be ashamed to not settle for anything less. Be the kind of woman, others want to have as their friend. You can have these amazing, beautiful eyes (because you both do) and let your heart be even MORE beautiful than them. Your weight, your dress size, which bathing suit you think looks best, are things we all deal with. The older I get the more I wish I didn’t stress about them so much when I was younger. Wear whatever you want that shows the best version of you possible. Want to dye your hair pink because it feels right at the time? Do it. There is not one standard, not one person, and not a one size fits all for beauty. Embrace other girls and women in their own version of beauty. You are beautiful but, you are also so much more.
Have dreams and goals bigger than the universe can handle. Set forth to leave your mark on this world, you don’t have to find the cure for cancer or solve world peace to do so. If you fall, get back up. It is okay to cry, but as long as you know it’s just a bad day, not a bad life. Know when to ask for help, to admit when you’re wrong and to be confident when you are right. Help others in their dreams, especially each other. Sisters can be soulmates, partners in crime, and powerful. Remember that when you’re upset because one of you stole the others favorite dress. Put together a plan for yourself and if it changes, or goes completely wrong, take a moment. Rewrite your plans. There is no shame in failing or starting over. You can get exactly what you deserve in life in you put forth the effort, time, and love towards it. I don’t care what you choose to do, just do it with pride.
“You alone are enough. You have nothing to prove to anyone.”-Maya Angelou
I will love you always. You never know how much your mom loves you until you have your own child. Until then, try and believe me when I say, there is NOTHING you can do, to make me not love you. The day we met each other, are my favorite moments. On days you think the world is against you, during a breakup when you think there is no one who loves you, I am here to show you otherwise. Wherever we are together, is home. When you are angry at me and trust me, you will be lots (because that’s how life is), know I make choices because of that love. When you are older, and I am no longer by your side every day, I hope you feel my presence guiding you. Know that I will always walk beside you in your life. The kind of love a mother has takes her breath away. It shakes her to the core. You will hopefully one day feel it for yourselves and look at me and understand all I’ve tried to do for you. There is nothing you can do to break that love.
Your Mom, Whom Has Been Shaken To Her Core Loving You