“Self-confidence is a super power. Once you start to believe in yourself, magic starts happening.”
This year my goal is to be more confident. I want to be confident in the place I am at in life, my parenting skills, my beauty, my talents, my friendships, and more. Doubt and insecurities are in the job of tearing things down. We do not need to make room for those things to creep into any area of our life. And, I am determined not to have anything tearing me down this year if I can control it. I want to challenge you to do the same because it is a game changer. Below are some ways that I have found to be successful in building confidence.
Redirect Your Negative Thoughts and Unarm Your Insecurities
It takes conscious effort to go against these things in your mind but you can do it and once you do, then your self-confidence can flourish. Tell yourself truths when these things creep in. For example, I tell myself, “you are a great mom and today is just a challenging day” or “you are an amazing friend and you don’t need to prove yourself or compete.” Telling myself simple things like this has really helped my confidence and in certain situations, it has made the BIGGEST difference in a time when I would have battled thoughts of negativity and doubt.
Explore the Things You Are Good At and Spend More Time Doing Those Things
No one is the same. You have gifts and talents that are unique to you. I read somewhere that confidence is like a muscle and the more you use it, the stronger it gets. Practice being confident by doing things you are good at and confident in!
Surround Yourself With Positive and Uplifting Things
This includes friends, media, events, etc. Imagine that the things you are doing and surrounding yourself with fuels you. You should fuel up with positivity and encouragement so that your confidence will be charged and that is what you will exude. In return, you can be a person that is positive and uplifting in both your child and spouse’s life, which leads me to my last point.
Photo snapped at The Bardot Beauty Lounge
Let Your Confidence Shine and Help Foster It In Those Around You
Everyone can benefit from a confidence boost and that includes your kids and spouse. A way that I have found helps build confidence in others in a MAJOR way is being intentional and engaging in conversations. For instance, instead of just passively responding with something short like, “that’s great” or “good job,” try giving that person your full attention and embellishing on your answer. Try saying, “Wow, tell me more.” Or “That’s crazy, how did you feel after he/she said that?”
It has changed a lot of areas in my life for the better. I hope this post inspires you and remember . . . “Once you start to believe in yourself, magic starts happening.” What difference could a little magic make in your life or your family’s life?